01-22-23: frustration!!! i wrote a little bit about 'assuming/assumption' the other day, and assuming easily leads to frustration, and frustration can lead to a bunch of other thoughts/emotions/behaviors/actions... i went to bed frustrated, and with a headache last-night, i think it was 21:00 or so, i fell asleep some-wheres around midnight, tossed around a little bit, but slept until just before five or so... i woke up to a full bladder, and a dream which made me...guess what... frustrated... in my dream i was competing in some obstacle-course/endurance-race, and i had a military-type of sandbag over my shoulder while moving from station to station (obstacle to obstacle), sandbags aren't light, and when they get wet you notice the weight difference... so the last station i had to maintain possession of the sandbag while diving for certain items in a pool, once you found all of the items you could get out, and then run along the beach in the sand to the finishing point where you checked-in with a judge (she was actually more like a librarian, but checking in participants instead of books) she told me that they didn't keep track of how long that it took me to travel between the last two stations, so i'd have to go back to complete them again... OK, i'm exhausted and bummed that i have to repeat a chore because of someone else's carelessness, but i can go back and travel the distance again... 'but you need to complete the last obstacle again, not just travel the distance again', she explained... 'well FVCK me!', i thought... OK, fine, i'll do the dang thing again, i know how to do it better than the first time because of my first experience, so despite my exhaustion i ought to be able to complete the task again, but more efficiently now... back through the sand (while still wet), and back to the pool, dump out the items (gun parts that i'd need to finish assembling the receiver that was in my sandbag), i throw myself and the sandbag back in, and proceeded to dive to find all of the parts that i think i needed to complete the assembly task, coming up for a breath when needed, keep repeating until i have possession of all of the parts. then back out of the pool, made sure the person running the station checked me out, and off to run in the sand--again... back to the lady at the finish line, who this time told me that i might not have all of the parts, so i should go back and get more parts at the bottom of the pool...'go back to the pool, and retrieve more parts', i asked with notable sarcasm...'do you have any idea how heavy these fvcking sandbags are, and how much more heavy they get each time they are submerged? And do you have an idea how exhausting it is to run fully clothed and wet across the sand each time? i just did that part three times now, and you want me to do it AGAIN!?!', and she was half-hiding a smile/smirk while i was venting and making sure that i understood her better... the smirk really bothered me, so i let out an 'well you obviously don't care, and should me ashamed of yourself'! as i slammed the sandbag and gun parts down on her counter, 'fvck this race, i'm not doing it three times, i didn't even HAVE to do it the first time, i just wanted to do it,and just once!'... she looked at the other administrators, and they all stood in disbelief that i wouldn't simply comply and finish the last stage again, and that i was frustrated with her commands/suggestions... and that's when i woke up from my dream, and feeling frustrated, and thinking 'this is some of the stupid bullshit that the military makes you do, and i'm not even in the military anymore, so screw that, why would i even subject myself to something like that if i wasn't even in the military anymore, that's just plain-ol' stupid man...
... so the dream seemed real enough that i woke up feeling frustrated again... so frustration--seems to me--is the result of having a pre-conceived results/expectations which was fulfilled in an unexpected way, with unacceptable results... it runs the same track as assumptions... there are lot's of things that we can predict, we can expect certain results when we make formal or informal calculations, the more data we crunch the better our calculations, but when we think/assume that we covered every variable and factor and possibility then the more likely we will be surprised/frustrated...or, if we are chemists, then the greater the possibility that we start a fire, or blow-up the lab, or just our selves... i try not to screw around with chemicals, i didn't finish chemistry 101, so i understand that it's a weakness of mine, but those folks who did can predict outcomes/things/actions much better than i can, they can safely assume things that i can't (unless i read a bunch first)... that's just the first example that came to mind when i think about poor judgement and making assumptions, and being disappointed or frustrated at unexpected results of certain actions... if i didn't give enough attention to the physics behind behind my plans then i'm more likely to get blind-sided by the 350lb tackle, and in frustration i will realize that i made an assumption that wasn't very logical, or well planned... sometimes you end up with 'happy surprises', blessings, sometimes you are steaming angry and the blood-pressure busts the gauge... miscalculations can happen to anyone, we are all human, and we don't know everything, sometimes we are too distracted or exhausted to give our full attention to a task that we should have really prioritized and placed greater consideration into, and the ensuing result is frustrating to say the least... i find it easier to get frustrated in myself, and some of my own actions, and the resulting re-actions that i have to deal with...
... frustration is cousin to assumption, they both seem to come from poor calculations missing critical or seemingly superficial input/logic... i make mistakes just about every day, and some-days i make a bunch of them... sometimes the fruits of those mistakes aren't too bad, sometimes i can laugh about it when i realize why and what i hadn't considered in my planning phase, sometimes i was rushing and busy so i gave very little planning into what i expected to accomplish... sometimes i have my A-game, sometimes my level of consciousness is better suited for bed than accomplishing anything important... if you've never been drunk before, but have been so over-tired that your attention and concentration are greatly retarded, well, now you know what it's like to be drunk... and folks that like to over-drink that are also prone to insomnia and sleep deprivation, well they don't stand a chance, might as well wear your hockey helmet and pads 24/7, it's a very unhealthy/unrealistic combination which almost guarantees failures and messes to clean-up after, providing you can remember what you did... it's easy to get frustrated when your concentration level is poor, and your consciousness is diminished, that's when you know that you don't have your A-game, you might be operating on a 'C-game', or worse...
... there are many ways to improve your intelligence, but the most simple way is to eat more healthy, stay well-hydrated, get adequate sleep, breath good quality air, and stay in an environment that you feel comfortable and can flow with... if the environments that you spend a lot of time in aren't healthy for your mind/attention/concentration then it's hard to bring your A-game to any planning and consideration--never mind your actions, you are more prone to running on auto-pilot and relinquishing/sacrificing your critical thinking... the more unhealthy your environment is the more you should consider resting your mind and meditate... the more busy and manic your lifestyle is the more likely you are to make more assumptions that may not yield the results that you had expected, and giving way to frustration... having the energy-level to make your mind and planning synchronize appropriately with your actions mostly comes down to making healthy decisions of what, when, and how much caloric input you consume, increased intelligence is contingent with exercising the intelligence that you already have to make logical decisions which involve things like self-control, and loving and taking care of yourself, or 'appreciating the temple that you have been gifted', the depth that you neglect or take care of yourself can increase or decrease your intelligence whether you care to believe that or not, because intelligence increases when your body is performing at greater levels, and greater performance comes from proper input, and meeting physiological requirements... when our physical needs are met we have better attention and higher levels of consciousness to make better--more thorough--calculations and planning before we move to actionary steps--which may turn into more stress, or a greater sense of flow (working in harmony with your environment) and accomplishment... i don't know about you, but i don't like being the village idiot, i haven't been gifted (genetically predisposed) of being a super-genius, so i need all the help that i can get to have an appropriate level of understanding/consciousness/intelligence to operate well in the environments where i spend much of my time... assuming things is an absence of logic and critical thinking and awareness, frustration is birthed out of assuming, greater intelligence comes from making critical decisions about how you take care of yourself, and greater intelligence helps you plan and make better plans and actions...
... last-night i went to bed frustrated from a few different stressors, and this morning i woke up feeling frustrated by a dream, but i'm sober and alert and not rushing around, so i have a better chance of making better decisions about things that could bring about more frustrations, or better outcomes, the consequences of my planning and actions... maybe i can't control other people's actions, but it doesn't mean that i should give up on the things that i can control, and it doesn't mean that i shouldn't help other folks understand the faulty equations that were behind the unexpected consequences of their own assumptions, actions and frustrations... it's a bit to do with helping each other... anyways, my sleep was abbreviated and a little uncomfortable, so i don't when i'll take a nap today, probably when i decide to meditate and pray, those things turn into naps most days... enjoy your sunday, may it be free from bad decisions and frustrations as you flow harmoniously with the various environments and people that you are subjected to... peace, and God bless. -- ct
01-22-23 later: the snow is falling in rockingham county, the weather folks are predicting between 1-8 inches, i'm predicting between .5 to 30 inches, but i'm no expert, so don't take my word for it... the weekend was nice, saturday was pretty frustrating, but today was peaceful and enjoyable in a quiet sort of way (my personal preference)